Beth says: Any time you experience heartbreak, you are in deep stress. The first thing you must do is take care of your body because it's going to go through the ringer. Force yourself to get enough sleep (but don't just lay in bed), eat properly (not just ice cream and chocolate), take showers, get dressed every day and get out in the sun. Then take care of your mind and your heart--surround yourself with people who love you. Resist the urge to shut down and shut everyone out. Stay busy.
Most important--you may have lost the love of your life, but you still have your dignity! Hold onto that! Avoid the phone at all costs. Emotional confrontations where you demand answers to questions that won't satisfy you no matter what, are the worst possible thing for your heart. Try to move from sadness to anger (a much more empowering emotion) and then onto picking up the pieces. Living well is, after all, the best revenge.
Kevin says: When you’re hurting, the old stand-by answer “Time” does not seem
helpful. Unfortunately, it really is the only answer. The key is what
you do with the time while you’re nursing your broken heart. You have to
give yourself a period to grieve the loss, and then you have to move
forward in spite of whatever pain you’re feeling. If you find yourself
completely stuck, say, for months at a time, it may be time to call in
reinforcements to help you recalibrate your life. A few sessions with a
good talk therapist can work wonders in helping you see why your
relationship ended (or needed to end), what you could or should do
differently in the future, how to better identify warning signs, and how
to value yourself as a single person. In terms of how to move forward,
the short answer is “fake it ‘til you make it.” Put on a smile, do what
you can to help others, take extreme care of yourself, and repeat until
you forget why you’re doing it.
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